How to deal with the emotional roller-coaster of infertility

Making the decision to conceive is supposed to be a wonderful, joyous time in a couple’s life. Fertility problems, however, can upset the balance and replace joy with a plethora of other emotions, effectively creating a roller-coaster of emotions. Dealing with your emotions can be tough, even for the most laid-back people. Keep the following things in mind to keep your sanity throughout your battle with infertility.

• Infertility is not your fault. While many women are able to conceive without any problems, this is not the case for all women. The problem may be damaged Fallopian tubes, a low sperm count or a combination of these and other issues. It is important to keep in mind that there are many ways to overcome fertility issues and none of the problems are your fault. In cases such as these there is no blame, even if you feel inadequate, you most certainly are not.
• Relax – stress is a number one issue that causes fertility problems. Stress may cause you to miss an ovulation cycle and can lower a man’s sperm count at high levels. In order to release stress, learn how to relax – use deep breathing techniques or get a massage and get pampered.
• Keep the process fun. Trying to conceive should be a happy event. Enjoy the intimacy and leave the conception to your body. If you simply have sex to try to get pregnant without enjoying the sex, your body can pick up on the stress and counteract your intentions. Avoid all pressuring and simply let your body take its course.
• If you have been trying to get pregnant for a long period of time with no results, consult with your doctor and possibly an infertility specialist. There are many ways to get pregnant, even if it requires outside help.
• Lean on your friends and family. In a time like this your family should be your rock to lean on when you are dealing with so many emotions at once. Do not forget to lean on your partner and allow him to lean on you as well.
  Oftentimes the men feel left out as the woman relies only on her family to help her through the ordeal. Chances are your partner feels as devastated or stressed as you do. Sharing your feelings will only strengthen your bond which is always good when planning an addition to the family.

Infertility issues are common. Many couples struggle for years to get pregnant and experience every emotion possible during that time. To help yourself deal with the emotional rollercoaster of infertility you have to realize that the issues are not your fault, there is nobody to blame, relaxing and keeping the process fun are very important and family is a great place to look for support.

Above all, keep trying to fulfill your dream of conceiving, even if it requires a little outside help. You will appreciate your baby all the more as the blessings they truly are.